The Elephant in the Room


I was reading Amia‘s blog the other day, and came across her post in response to Marianne‘s post titled “Dare“, about a comment she had received from someone who disdainfully remarked that fashion blogging was just girls who think they’re pretty and they’re not, taking pictures of themselves and basically being vain. And I wanted to add my two cents about fashion blogging, because it’s something I think about quite often, and I don’t remember ever really posting about it.


When I started fashion blogging, I was insecure about my appearance. I grew up with parents who always encouraged me in every way and told me I was beautiful, but I went through a phase between 17-20 or so of being 40 pounds overweight, wearing nothing but jeans and ill-fitted tee shirts and sweatshirts every day, and only dressing up for church on the weekends because I didn’t want to stick out. I can still very distinctly remember eying other girls and thinking I’d never really be one of them. Being at the pool amongst my friends and wishing my swimsuit could hide my thighs that jiggle, my rear end that will never be small, the disproportion of my wide hips to my smallish chest.

I remember only feeling pretty on those weekends at church, when I could wear dresses and not get questions about why I was so dressed up; when full skirts and fitted tops reworked my figure into something else — I didn’t realize proportion had a lot to do with it at the time, I just knew I felt much better in a skirt or a dress than I did in jeans. 104

And then one week in the dead of winter, after having lost 40 pounds, I got fed up with baggy pants and boring tee shirts, and decided I wanted to try wearing skirts for an entire week. First, I wanted to see if it was even possible to make it through the icy, slushy weather in skirts and not be frozen. Second, I wanted to see what others’ reactions to my sudden wardrobe change were, because I was afraid people would think I was ridiculous. And third… I wanted to see if I was brave enough to be that different. At the time, none of my friends wore dresses or skirts on a daily basis. Everyone wore jeans and tee shirts and casual shoes. Nobody showed up anywhere in a skirt.

I survived that week smashingly, without being frozen, and somewhere in that time I got more into reading fashion blogs and decided I’d tag outfit pictures to the ends of my posts — this blog was originally just a thoughts blog. And something surprising happened: I started getting comments from friends that they wished they were brave enough to wear dresses all the time like I did. And I started getting comments from internet friends encouraging me to post more outfits.


So this blog evolved into a fashion blog. And through posting outfit pictures, I have learned that just because I’ve got hips and am generally more curvaceous than most of my friends does not mean I can’t look and feel pretty. Yes, I do like posting outfit pictures because I feel pretty in them, but that’s not the only reason I blog, or read blogs. I post pictures because it’s fun, because I’m interested in photography and have no other models, because it’s part of my artistic expression, because I want to encourage others that no matter what your position in life, body type, or budget, you can dress well. I blog because it keeps me from being a complete and total slob every day.

And I love blogging not for the attention, but because it’s a way to make friends. It’s a life diary. I love reading other blogs because they are inspiring, they are endearing, they are fun, they are wonderful people; I love looking at pretty things as much as the next girl, but that’s not my number one reason to read a blog. I love seeing women of all shapes and sizes, all walks of life, all ages, and all budget types expressing their style and sharing their lives with the world. I love making new friends through blogging. 2024

I read blogs for more than fashion, too. I love reading life stories, food  blogs, home style blogs, DIY, and a lot more. I don’t think I can adequately list all of the reasons I love reading blogs– not just fashion blogs, but all blogs — because there are too many things I love about bloggers and blogging.

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Fashion blogging is so much more than thinking you’re pretty or better than someone else, like Amia said. It’s about the people and the inspiration and the beauty of our differences and our lives! It’s about fashion, and sharing our love for style with others.

The blogging community is such a wonderful one. I’m so blessed by all of the people who have come into my life because of blogging, and I hope nobody ever reads this blog and thinks I’m only posting because I think I’m pretty and I want attention.


Heels, skirt, belt, and brooch thrifted | Fred Meyer t-shirt | Modcloth headband

I do, however, totally think these shoes are awesome and they need lots of attention. Haha! I found them on a lucky thrifting trip, right when I was wishing for a good pair of red heels. And now that I’m not pregnant, I’m allowed to wear heels again, yay! So it’s time to stock up on more colored shoes. My favorite pair — these coral colored ones — up and died on me. Here’s hoping someone gives Goodwill a bunch of size eight colorful heels so I can snag them.

What are your thoughts on blogging? Why do you post outfit pictures?

I hope you are all having a wonderful Wednesday!


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